Blog Post: Are These the Habits of a High-Performing Adult?

There’s a male fitness coach going viral right now for his 3 AM/4 AM morning routine. Some are calling it unnecessary. Others are calling it performance. Some say, “He’s just doing it for views,” while others are inspired by the discipline. But it made me stop and ask myself: Are these the habits of a high-performing, career-driven adult?


And if not exactly that, then what is?


I ask because once upon a time—back in high school—I was incredibly organized. I had a planner. I would write out my after-school routine by the hour. My mom used to be so impressed with how structured I was. It gave me a sense of control, clarity, and direction.


But somewhere along the way, I drifted. Life got busy. Now, most days I operate off of a mental planner, which sounds functional… until it’s not. I’ll have 12 things floating in my brain and then wonder why I feel mentally exhausted. Lately I’ve been thinking, Is it time to get back to the physical planner? Or even use my digital calendar with alerts to gently nudge me back into rhythm?


What does high-performance look like when you’re not just managing tasks—but managing identities?


For those of you who don’t know, I wear several hats:
• I’m a licensed realtor.
• A licensed independent travel advisor.
• The daughter of a guru book publisher and a guru trucking entrepreneur.
• A big sister. A granddaughter. A mentor. A friend.


I’m proud of all the roles I play. I see myself as someone who can do it all—but lately, I’ve been asking, Can I do it all well? And what does “well” even mean to me now?


Is it meal prepping on Sundays and laying out my outfits for the week?
Is it drinking water, staying moisturized, and scheduling therapy like I schedule meetings?
Is it finding a church home? Saying no more often? Prioritizing a weekly FaceTime with my grandma?


Does “high-performing” have to mean hyper-productive? Or can it mean emotionally available? Spiritually grounded? Physically nourished?


I’ve started building out a weekly to-do list again—nothing fancy, just small, consistent wins. And I have to admit, checking off each item gives me a mini sense of accomplishment. But still, I wonder: Is structure the secret to freedom? Or does too much planning box us in?


Being on the cusp of 30 is such a weird and beautiful space. It feels like a bridge between who I thought I would be and who I still have time to become. I want to use this time wisely—but what does “wise” even look like now? Is it in the hustle? Or is it in the rest?


And so, I ask the question again: What are the habits of high-performing adults?


Is it waking up at 3 AM to train, or is it giving yourself grace when you sleep in?
Is it hitting career goals, or is it calling your siblings back and making space for joy?


I don’t have all the answers—but maybe that’s the point. Maybe the power isn’t in having it all figured out, but in asking the right questions, and building a life that feels aligned with the answers we uncover along the way.
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